Tubby Isaacs wrote: ↑Tue Jan 17, 2023 1:04 pm
You're saying 3 months is too short for under 18s only, rather than all? I would think that the vast majority know at 16 and anyway, can't they flip back? I think this is actually an advantage in a way, rather than having people get gender reallignment and (in a small number of cases) regretting it.
I think, like many things, it’s about risk - and the risk of things not working out is lower at 18 than 16. The time limit for 16 is 6 months I believe, which is better. But it’s the entire self-certification at that age that worries me a little. I’m sure for a lot of kids you’re absolutely right that they know what and who they are. For others, there may be some flipping back and forth (and there’s an argument here that some sort of check would be a benefit to them purely from a paperwork avoidance point of view!). But it’s also an age of immense peer pressure on the one hand, and social media being another huge influence on the other.
I can see people finding themselves in scenarios they aren’t sure about but keeping on going because of what *others* are thinking and doing, and there’s now not even so much as a chat before you can apply for a GRC. It doesn’t have to stay full-on psych or medical exam, but I’d just like some sort of safety net to catch those kids who have ended up getting in way too far with something. Particularly as people unsure about their sexuality or those who know something isn’t ‘right’ but aren’t sure quite what that is yet are often particularly vulnerable.
A friend of mine is non-binary, and was forced to come out as such for 2 reasons - a well meant but poorly implemented work policy of having pronouns in emails, and someone in their social group effectively outing them because they were so excited that they were feeling brave enough to come out they couldn’t wait, and more or less announced it for them. They’re OK, but they felt their choice and decision were taken from them and they were rushed into making a big change through the actions and pressure of others.
This was an adult in their mid 30s feeling like they were stuck doing something to someone else’s schedule and because someone else really wanted them to. A 16-year-old being egged on by their mates who they don’t want to let down is going to have even more of a tough time blocking out all the outside noise and thinking for themselves.